HOW TO MAKE ANYONE LIKE YOU IN 90 SECONDS OR LESS!
by Nicholas Boothman
The average person's attention span lasts about 30 seconds.
That means first and immediate impressions count, and big.
In this modern-day update of Dale Carnegie's classic How to Win Friends and Influence People, former fashion photographer Nicholas Boothman instructs you in how to mold those 30 seconds to your greatest advantage and connect with others at business and social functions.
Boothman, now a lecturer and licensed master practitioner of neurolinguistic programming (the art and science of how the brain affects human connections), says that the key to making others like you quickly lies in establishing a rapport:
you have to find out what you have in common or,
if you seemingly have nothing in common,
purposely try to become like the other person for a short time.
He then goes on to offer simple techniques for getting a rapport going: adopt a positive attitude; make sure your words, tone, and gestures are all saying the same thing; synchronize your attitude and body movements to those of another person's (which makes the person feel comfortable with you although he or she may not know why); and ask lots of open-ended questions.
Boothman also describes how to figure out a stranger's favored sense for receiving information about the world some rely on visual cues, others on auditory or kinesthetic (touch) input and use it to your best advantage.
About the Author
Nicholas Boothman, author of How to Make People Like You in 90 Seconds or Less, learned how to establish instant rapport with strangers while he was working as a fashion and advertising photographer. A licensed Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, he is a consultant to individuals, groups, and corporations that want to learn the communication skills needed to connect with others.
"I expect to pass through life but once.
If therefore, there be any kindness I can show,
or any good thing I can do for any fellow being,
let me do it now, and not defer or neglect it, as I shall not pass this way again"
~ Stephen Grellet
"Faith and Fear Share The Same Definition.
Believing that what you cannot see will surely come to pass.
Faith Attracts The Positive while fear attracts the negative."
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